Reform wedding laws

Reform wedding laws

Page 28 of 28: Make marriage fairer for all people of all religions and beliefs.

Wedding law in England and Wales is badly out of date.

We campaign for marriage to be equally open to all, regardless of religion or belief.

Time for one wedding law for all.

In England and Wales, different laws apply depending on whether a wedding is Anglican, Jewish, Quaker, another religion or not religious at all (a civil wedding or partnership).

This is unfair, confusing and absurd.

Most religious weddings must be held in a registered place of worship, while civil weddings and partnerships must take place in approved premises. Jewish and Quaker weddings can take place anywhere.

This system leads to inequality. Members of religions which don't have fixed places of worship, or don't use their places of worship for weddings, are disadvantaged. And members of nonreligious communities such as Humanism have no way of getting legally married according to their philosophical beliefs.

The process for a place of worship to register itself for marriage is much cheaper than for approved premises for civil ceremonies. This in turn contributes to the cost of civil marriages and partnerships.

Over 80% of opposite-sex marriages in England and Wales in 2022 were civil marriages. But only 16% of recognised wedding venues in England and Wales can hold civil marriages. The remaining 84% are religious venues.

While approved premises for civil weddings and partnerships must by law hold ceremonies for same-sex couples, this is not the case for places of worship. In 2022, only 2% of places of worship were registered for same-sex weddings. This considerably reduces the options for same-sex couples. Whereas opposite-sex weddings are in slow decline, same-sex weddings are increasing.

UPDATE: The Law Commission has now made its final recommendations on reforming wedding law on England and Wales. Please write to your MP in support of the recommendations...

Unregistered religion-only 'marriages'

The complexity of marriage law may contribute to the rise in couples who have religious 'wedding' ceremonies that are not legally-binding.

A signification proportion of Muslim couples are in an Islamic 'nikah' union lacking the full legal rights and protections of a recognised marriage.

Unregistered marriages can undermine women's rights in particular. If a woman in a nikah is 'divorced' suddenly, or against her wishes, she can be left homeless and without any money or assets.

The situation is made worse by sharia councils or 'courts' which dispense religious rulings on Islamic marriage, child custody and divorce. These are not courts of law but there are concerns some Muslim women, especially those not born in the UK or unable to speak English, perceive them as having real legal authority.

Sharia councils leave children vulnerable and discriminate openly against women. To seek a religious divorce a woman must gain permission from these almost entirely male councils, and there are reports of women being denied this request even in cases where they have faced abuse.

Reforming wedding laws will not solve these problems completely. But making wedding laws simpler and fairer can encourage couples to gain the legal protections of a registered marriage.

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Peers call for action over 'religious courts'

Posted: Tue, 23 Oct 2012 13:41

Peers in the House of Lords have expressed overwhelming support for a bill to limit the power of self styled 'religious courts'.

The Private Members' Bill, introduced by Baroness Cox and co-sponsored by the National Secular Society, tackles the problem of gender discrimination in Arbitration Tribunals and the growing threat of alternative quasi-legal systems which undermine the fundamental principle of one law for all.

One study found that there are around 85 Sharia bodies operating in Britain, although there is no official estimate. They include arbitration tribunals making much of their ability to enforce their decisions in English law. Such tribunals were original conceived to resolve financial disputes, but are now being adopted by these Muslim tribunals which operate using Islamic legal principles and which have taken on a wider range of cases including divorce, child custody and even criminal matters which are outside their legitimate remit.

The Arbitration and Mediation Services (Equality) Bill would create a new criminal offence of 'falsely claiming legal jurisdiction' for any person who adjudicates upon matters which ought to be decided by criminal or family courts.

The Bill has received strong support from women's rights organisations such as Southall Black Sisters and Muslim women's organisations such as Inspire, as well as by the Iranian and Kurdish Women's Rights Organisation, the Henna Foundation, Karma Nirvana and British Muslims for Secular Democracy.

Opening the debate during the Bill's second reading on Friday 19 October, Baroness Cox said:

"Awareness of the need for the Bill arose from mounting evidence of serious problems affecting some women in this country from the application of Sharia law. I immediately reassure your Lordships that I am not anti-Muslim. Indeed, I am deeply concerned that Muslim women enjoy their full legal and civil rights under the law of this land. If women from other faiths experience comparable problems of systematic discrimination, the provisions of this Bill would also be available for them as it does not name any religion."

Baroness Cox then told the House of cases she had encountered including a woman who had been admitted to hospital by her violent husband who had left her for another woman but still denied her a religious divorce so she could remarry.

Another woman was forced to travel to Jordan to seek permission to remarry from a seven-year-old boy whom she had never met because she had no other male relatives, she said.

A third who came to see her was so scared of being seen going in that she hid behind a tree while another told her: "I feel betrayed by Britain, I came to this country to get away from all this but the situation is worse here than in my country of origin."

Baroness Cox said: "These examples are just the tip of an iceberg as many women live in fear, so intimidated by family and community that they dare not speak out or ask for help."

Lord Eden of Winton clearly touched a nerve when he warned that:

"For all our citizens we must be alert and active in protecting and preserving the very foundation of our civilisation – namely, equality of treatment under the law. It is to that end that the Bill is dedicated. I hope that it gets a favourable wind to carry it forward to the statute book."

Lord Carlile was similarly to the point:

"I believe that if one child in this country is taken away from his or her mother because of a religious doctrine and placed with what are essentially strangers, possibly in another country, that is a fundamental flaw in our law and it should not be allowed. That is something that the noble Baroness seeks to address."

Labour Peer Baroness Donaghy, former Chair of the Advisory, Conciliation and Arbitration Service (Acas) told the House:

"As long as some women live in fear and are trapped in their situation, we should act. The Government may well feel that this Bill is unnecessary as the law in this area is adequate. I would argue that turning a blind eye to fear and exploitation is not adequate. I do not believe that this is confined to Sharia law or the Muslim religion. These parallel laws that discriminate against women exist, sometimes, in other religions. It is important to emphasise that this is not an attack on one particular religion or, indeed, on any right to worship."

Crossbench peer Lord Singh of Wimbledon said:

Arbitration and mediation in resolving differences in religious communities is fine if carried out on the basis of equality between all parties. Today, laws, codes or social practices that seek to perpetuate discrimination against women in any society are no longer acceptable.

Lord Kalms of Edgware echoed Lord Eden in his contribution to the debate:

"The substance of the Bill is straightforward, and it should be acceptable to all Members of this House. It is this: that the law of the land is, and must remain, paramount; no law should ever override or sit above the law of this land; and, while amendments can and will be made to our laws, the fundamental bedrock principles on which our legal system is based not only cannot but must not be open for negotiation. Among our absolutely non-negotiable principles must be the principle of equality before the law. This hard-fought-for concept of one law for all remains among the greatest achievements not only of our country but of humankind. Any court not abiding 100% by the law of the land has no more status than a kangaroo court."

And in conclusion:

"Today this House has an opportunity to make a stand and draw a firm line. It should be this: that no British citizen should ever sit before a court or judge whose basic principles are in opposition to the most cherished principles of this country and its law. Whether we have the confidence to draw this line clearly will not only affect the issue of integration in this country, it will send out a signal about the kind of country we and our children would wish to live in."

Warm support followed from the Labour benches, especially from the Shadow Equalities Minister Baroness Thornton:

"We on these Benches will dedicate ourselves to finding legislative or other solutions to the discrimination that has been outlined."

The only opposition to the Bill came from the bench of bishops and the first female Muslim in the House of Lords, Baroness Udin.

The Bishop of Manchester urged "extreme caution" in proposing legislation, arguing that the functioning of religious courts in the UK required "greater discussion and research".

Baroness Udin echoed the bishop's comments saying the Bill would be viewed as "another assault on Muslims".

Despite overwhelming support in the Chamber, Conservative peer Lord Gardiner of Kimble, representing the Government, told the House that the Government remained unconvinced that there is a need for a change in the law.

Clearly following a pre-prepared script and failing to address any of the issues raised during the debate, he angered even peers on his own benches by his refusal, arguing that communities and community organisations must give a lead in ensuring rights of all citizens are understood and protected. He said the Government was committed to working with communities and faith groups to take this forward.

Baroness Cox concluded however that:

"The Government do not seem to recognise the very real existence of an enormous disparity between the de jure situation and the de facto reality that causes such problems for so many women in this country today."

In tribute to Baroness Cox, Lord Carlile QC said he thought that the debate had been as well informed as any debate that occurs on a Private Member's Bill.

The National Secular Society is working with Lady Cox to press the Government on the important questions posed during the debate.

Keith Porteous Wood, Executive Director of the National Secular Society said: "The degree of support for this Bill was extremely encouraging with moving speeches from one peer after another from all sides of the House. Sadly, this did not include the Bishops Bench where the established church seem predictably more preoccupied with supporting religious law then concerning itself with the rights of vulnerable women who do not have a voice. This applies also to the Government, whose lack of concern for them was shameless. If instead, we had been talking about non-consensual polyandry being forced on Asian men in this country, or the inability of white men to obtain divorces even when there was domestic violence, this would not have been a private members' Bill being considered as the very last business of the week.

We will be building on the considerable support expressed during the debate, including by the opposition frontbench."

Read the debate in full Hansard

Ultra-Orthodox Jewish misogyny on the rise in Israel

Posted: Fri, 25 Nov 2011 13:51

Concerns are rising that gender segregation is on the increase inIsrael, especially in Jerusalem where ultra-Orthodox Jews are growing in numbers and strength.

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